Boundaries Improve Your Relationships
Most people struggle with boundaries.
We all have people in our lives that press on us with no regard for boundaries.
They say shit they have no business saying.
They disrespect who we are...or who we are trying to become.
It's not always intentional.
A dynamic develops from animosity and increases gradually over time.
Tolerate more...get more.
It doesn't mean it's right.
And you definitely should not tolerate it.
At some point in your life you have to choose to become an adult.
Contrary to popular belief it doesn't just happen with age.
Adulthood is a choice to take responsibility and stand up on your own.
Standing up for who you are and what you believe, refusing to be walked on.
Many people will live their entire lives without reaching adulthood.
As I've taken on more responsibility and invited more challenge into my life I've had to develop a stronger relationship with myself and my ability to regulate what I can tolerate from people....you should too.
I'm serious about boundaries.
We don't have time for the nonsense and drama.
Life is too short and there are too many real issues and challenges to deal with...without wasting energy on people who bring you no value.
I'm not trying to suggest we become selfish and cut everyone out who disagrees or challenges you...we need honest and real relationships if we are to thrive.
What I'm suggesting is that you recognize when a relationship is no longer serving you in its current capacity.
Has it grown with you?
If not, change it or leave it.
We all have friends that we remain 'friends' with because we grew up together.
We disregard the fact that if we met them today we would not solicit a friendship.
It sounds like rhetoric until you start living it...but as soon as you choose to pursue growth in some area of your life, the naysayers and detractors will arrive.
You'll be blindsided unexpectedly by people you thought would always have your back.
Understand...your growth threatens their excuse.
They want to keep you down and distracted because you are a threat to the bullshit excuses they give themselves as to why they aren't in a better place.
They won't spend 2 seconds being critical of themselves so that they can improve...they'll simply point all of their energy at ripping you down.
So I encourage you to take stock in yourself.
Make a decision for you and those who count on you.
Who are you and where are you going?
What are you doing to get there?
Understand the effort you put into the things you care about.
If you're doing things the right way...
the hard way...
...then understand that you should not concern yourself with those who are not.
At some point you have to stop giving people a pass for stepping over your boundaries and disrespecting you.
Stop accepting their bullshit.
Don't listen to the opinions that gave them their own shitty results.
Seek a positive circle or remain in the past.
Focus & Fortitude
-Linc